"In dealings with one's neighbor, self-love makes us hyper-sensitive, inflexible, proud, impatient; it causes us to exaggerate our ego and our rights, to be cold, indifferent, unjust in our judgments and in word. One delights in speaking about one's actions, of one's insights and experiences, of difficulties, of sufferings, even when there is no need to do so. In practices of piety, one takes pleasure in looking at others, observing and judging them: one is inclined to make comparisons with them and to believe oneself better; to see only defects in them and deny their good qualities: to attribute to them intentions and aims that are not noble, and even to wish them ill. Self love . . . leads us to feel offended when we are humiliated, insulted or passed over, or when we are not considered, esteemed or made a fuss of as we had hoped for." B. Baur, In Silence with God.
